being in yr 20s is abt experiencing the worst thing you can imagine & then having to go to the grocery store
you don’t need an excuse for being good to yourself, you can be good to yourself just because. even if everything went wrong, even if you feel like you haven’t achieved anything in a while, even if you’ve been unproductive and tired, you’re still allowed to treat and take care of yourself.
Also in my experience, sometimes you’ve been unproductive and tired BECAUSE YOU NEED MORE SELF CARE.
It’s not lazy to need rest/a snack/a fun activity/socialization- it’s literally how humans work. Sometimes I think “I can’t take a break; I’ve been working on this for hours and made barely any progress.” Then I take a break anyway - only to come back and finish it quickly because it’s easy now that I’m running on a full tank again.
You don’t need to earn fuel. You need the fuel to do the things in the first place.
I am increasingly annoyed with "boys will be boys" and "dudes rock" in response to videos of men, say, digging a hole at the beach or doing tricks on a trampoline. I'm not a hater and I enjoy seeing people have fun, but men are just given the space to be whimsical and carefree in a way that women are not. Girls are expected to be caregivers from such an early age, sexualized earlier, effectively denied a childhood. I'll see a video of a guy giving random people on the street hugs and everyone observes that "all the women ignored him but the dudes had his back," and it's like well yeah, women are used to being harassed and have their guards up. And I want to see women get their own "dudes rock" treatment without being considered immature in a way that reflects on their entire gender, labelled "manic pixie dream girls" (a term used in media criticism not to be leveraged against real people just living their lives), or denied the kindness reserved for men with a sense of childlike wonder.
And in these next 50 years you will eat so many delicious meals, laugh so many times with so many people you love, shout and scream and sing and cry and smile so hard your face hurts. And you will see such beautiful sunsets and feel fresh cold air on your face and feel warm and safe wrapped up in your favourite winter coat.
i love constantly evolving into a cooler version of myself
btw by cooler i don’t mean like. trendier or more conventionally attractive but a version of myself that feels more like an honest representation of myself and all the layers of myself that are shifting as i grow and learn more about myself and the world …. (which makes me hotter.)
Stop straying away from new beginnings. Don’t shy yourself from new people, and surroundings. Don’t be afraid to learn and embrace new opportunities. Without stepping out of your comfort zone, you’ll always be stuck in the same repetitive life cycle.
